THE PROVERBS 31 MAN
Good day, just so you know this post isn’t entirely novel, but I really do love writing on the medium platform and I couldn’t keep myself from sharing my thoughts on this.
How many times have the male gender stayed down to ask “Can I be a proverbs 31 guy?”
A little scribble into this topic made me pause to ask the question again; “Is there a thing called the proverbs 31 man?” Well, there is the proverbs 31 woman: who is filled with an awesome character and virtue. The scriptural reference, in modern times have been the yardstick of what implies to be the excellent wife or woman. Interestingly, every guy hopes that his girl falls within this category and it has been more of a duty of the ladies to stick by the rules of the provisions of proverbs 31. Sadly, what was meant to be a guide is now being forced as a prerequisite for every woman who hopes to marry.
However I am writing as one who believes in the mutual relationship that exists in marriage. How many times have the male gender stayed down to ask “Can I be a proverbs 31 guy?” So, I read through the book of proverbs 31 and I tried to look out for the function of the male in the life of a virtuous woman as so called.
First of, the letter was directed to king Lemuel. It’s important to understand that the virtuous woman is a person of noble character. Someone worthy of a king, she’s someone worth the gold ring. The question for you bro is this: are you worth a king? Do you behave as a leader? Remember King Lemuel had his mother tell him to stop taking wine, cos Kings don’t do such. So guys let’s start with our character and mindsets. We must cultivate a kingly one. Virtuous women deserve Leadership-oriented men.
“..the virtuous woman is a person of noble character. Someone worthy of a king..”
Another thing I figured for we guys, is to work on trust issues. Yes she’s a good girl; we all know. Then you should calm down and build confidence in her. Until we stop seeing girls as (bit*h or ho*s), then we’d be training ourselves as men that deserve women who have values. A dude that wants a virtuous lady should work on trust, have full confidence in her, her decisions and judgments. I mean, if you are indeed a man of value yourself, it won’t be difficult to recognize a lady with similar values as yours. (Vs 11 NIV)
Until we stop seeing girls as (bit*h or ho*s), then we’d be training ourselves as men that deserve women who have values
Family, family…yes a virtuous woman has a duty to provide food for them, but as guys we are to create a family. Family here is the atmosphere around our homes. Family is bond, it’s love, it’s support. Don’t just build a house, build a home, deliberately loving your children and your wife. Allow the house to be fun and enjoyable, trust me, this way your lady would love being your support structure. She’s a virtuous woman, she’s ready to support the home. Moreover, with you making it a family you’d make things a whole lot easier and happy for her as she shares her profit ratio with the family. (Vs 15)
..yes a virtuous woman has a duty to provide food for them, but as guys we are to create a family.
“Her husband is respected at the city gate, where he takes his seat among the elders…”
Proverbs 31:23, is one of my favorite verse here, cos it’s blatantly referring to the guys. When the scriptures references “gate” it means authority e.g “the gates of hell shall not prevail..etc”
This is a clear indication that for every guy that wants a virtuous woman, oh boy, you gotta command some respect. Now not just some respect built by bullying people or oppressing them, but respect that comes with wisdom. Remember “…where he takes his seat among the elders” the elderly are a figure of wisdom and respect in leadership.
In a nutshell, guys, we need to have our mentors, and we need to be able to command respect in our areas of engagement. Hmm, Virtuous women do deserve men like this.
Lastly, young men who deserve virtuous women, always appreciate their wives. “..and he praises her” (Vs 28) you gotta learn to praise your darling bro, you can’t just have a lady like that and be all gloomy about her presence in the home.
“…Honor her for all that her hands have done, and let her works bring her praise at the city gate” (Vs 31).
This is also very important. If you want a virtuous lady then you would honor her. Why would you be “casting” your wife… What?! Do not also forget to praise her at the city gate i.e in public. Shower praises on her in public because she deserves it. Let people see the joy she brings to your home, the support she brings to your family, career, business etc. Let people feel you’re lucky to have her, because indeed you are.
I do hope I have been able to pin point a little of the responsibilities Men have when dealing with virtuous women or perhaps think they deserve virtuous women.
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